One of the hardest things that parents have to do to bring up their child and give them proper education is to learn to say “No” when the situation asks. Although we love our children with all our hearts and we are ready to sacrifice the world to see them happy and pleased, first of all we need to bring up well-educated and properly raised individuals for their own sake.
Learning to say No is just the first step in teaching your kid what’s right and what’s wrong to do. Learning about things that should not be done makes him a more secure individual, unlikely to harm himself and the others in his society.
We look around us and we see some many improperly educated young people around us that believe that they deserve to have and own everything they see, no matter the circumstances and other people involved thus being rude, impolite and annoying to others. These young individuals have not been taught the word “No” and their parents have done them a great disservice by not using it.
As hard as it seems to use it with your kids, you definitely don’t want to bring to the world another impolite and insolent individual that has no chances to adapting to the society he lives in.
In the end this is a big disadvantage that you offer him just because you haven’t used the word “No” when the situation needed it. Don’t just let yourself persuaded by his/her puppy eyes and hysterical cries. They do this just because they know they will win you over and convince you to say “Yes”. Be strong, don’t let yourself impressed that easily and think about how much your decision will help them in the future not just in the now.
In the end nobody wants to see their kids enable to adapt to the world and have success in what they do, both in the professions they want to follow and their relationships to others.
This kind of parental behavior to say “Yes” to every demand from your kid is more than selfish from the parent’s part, who often times want to stop hearing their kids whining, complaining or getting hysterical. Saying “yes” is the simplest way to solve the problem for the moment and aggravate it for the future, because it is not a viable solution.
Our piece of advice for the parents is to trust their conscience in every situation and be firm when either saying “Yes” or “No” to their children.
Also, keep in mind that the way in which you handle the situation now will influence and shape the character of your kid for life, so make sure that you teach him both right and wrong and encourage him/her when they’re right and tell them when they’ve done something wrong. Add explanations as well!